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“TimeOut is a Safe place where dominants and submissives (both m&f) can discuss ‘VT’ and ‘RT’ D/s topics.”
Mon 05:40:55 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Rebecca:
Aftercare is, very simply, the time you and your partner take after play time to recover and also to see to each other’s emotional and physical needs. Certain role plays and kinky acts can be both physically
and psychologically taxing, so this time is great for relaxing, as well as getting ‘back to reality.’
(http://www.lelo.com/blog/bdsm-beginners-aftercare/)
Mon 05:41:48 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . FYI - Dark Traveler is unable to attend this evening.
Mon 07:02:02 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *stepping into the room*
Mon 07:02:06 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . ~slipping into the room standing in for Dark Traveler~
Mon 07:02:49 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . *Stepping into the room, finding a seat with a smile*
Mon 07:03:21 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~is present~
Mon 07:03:26 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . hello lady tiffany. always a pleasure to see you. are you familiar with aftercare?
Mon 07:04:03 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . and Zilla what is Your understanding of aftercare?
Mon 07:04:18 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . *settles onto a cushion*
Mon 07:04:45 PM EDT Mar 15
timid . . . *peep*
Mon 07:04:52 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . hello pup. have you and your Ppartners practiced aftercare?
Mon 07:04:59 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . i am rebecca... ~s~ Dark Traveler has always taken the time to make sure i am ok after training or scening.
Mon 07:05:27 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . timid...good to see you! what have you experienced in aftercare?
Mon 07:06:34 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . if you don't mind sharing, lady tiffany, what are some of the rituals of aftercare that Dark Traveler has administered to you after a scene or training?
Mon 07:07:06 PM EDT Mar 15
yellowbird . . . *quietly curls up to listen*
Mon 07:08:28 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . yellowbird, welcome...please don't feel pressured to talk...but if you have aftercare experiences you have experienced that worked for you, or even ones that didn't work, please share!
Mon 07:08:29 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . *has to just be lurking for a bit*
Mon 07:08:45 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . To me, my understanding of aftercare is the care and well being, be it mental and/or physical after scening either in vt or rt
Mon 07:09:28 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *flops gracefully to listen*
Mon 07:10:18 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . Sometimes we sit quietly in the shadows... and he holds me.... whispers words of love and ... adoration... ~soft laugh~... i am actually blushing.... it feels a bit like i am sharing very personal information...
back
when he was training me.... to be His.... after punishments we had constant communication.... were i was assured i was not being ... released... not in those words exactly... it is harder to describe the aftercare after training then it is to describe
the aftercare after just a scene we do for pleasure...
Mon 07:12:13 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . often he will describe caring acts.... warm towels or washcloths.... and while those "paint" and affect me.... it is more the emotional types of aftercare that really touch me.
Mon 07:12:14 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . aftercare following punishment does feel different than different sessions, for sure
Mon 07:12:41 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *nodding hearing Zilla*
Recently i had a very interesting rt aftercare situation. My rt Partner and i played...Wwe had a great scene...after the scene He took the time to unwrap me from the rope bondage Wwe had played...He
did this slowly...gently...and then brought me over to sit upon the couch and He cuddled in next to me and Wwe talked and He offered me some water to sip through a straw as Wwe went over what Wwe like about the scene and also what, if anything, didn't
work so well in the scene. It was a very nice way to settle back into reality and for all the chemical highs to level out. *soft smile*
Mon 07:15:00 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~smiles listening to lady tiffany~
Mon 07:15:28 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *listening to lady tiffany*
thank you for sharing the very personal details about what your aftercare experience is like, lady tiffany.
it is interesting that you are speaking of aftercare in vt...and i think it
is really important to cover that aspect particularly...as we are in vt in this venue. io have experienced surprisingly little aftercare in my vt experiences...as a whole...rt i always ask for them.
is there anyone here that doesn't feel like
they want or need aftercare?
and hello chrissa...if you would share...what is aftercare after a punishment like vs after a scene?
Mon 07:17:21 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Not so much lack of 'want or need' - just, not so ritualistic. It varies so much, I can't really say definitively it's "aftercare". To me, it's all part of the session.
Mon 07:17:45 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . my expectations of what i ~thought~ i needed versus what i do need has definitely changed!
and punishment feels so awful and i normally just have to sob and turn into a vulnerable creature and i need to know things are
ok after... like, im safe and still precious and loved... that whatever mistake is swiped clean.
while in a normal session for pleasure, it’s more just knowing that ive done well and pleased Him. *nods lots* which can be shown in SOOO many
ways.
Mon 07:17:55 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Sort of... "it's not over 'til it's over". ~g~
Mon 07:21:00 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *hearing Alexandra*
that is a very good point...it seems to me SSome are ritualistic with aftercare...like Wwe have the talk before about boundaries, expectations, the loose details of the scene about to occur (rope, impact,
humiliation etc) and then scene...and then the aftercare....and OOthers...ity all unfolds more organically...all the details of everything having been unfolded over time and learning, i think. *soft nod* and the aftercare flowing out in a similar
way...as the energy and the relationship dictates. if that is what You were saying, Alexandra?
Mon 07:21:44 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . chrissa...what are some of the specifics of what you enjoy in aftercare?
Mon 07:23:25 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~nods~ Pretty much. ~s~
It really varies depending on the type and length of session, my own headspace, his/hers... so many elements come into play, it remains part of the session - one 'part' just informs and flows into
the next.
Mon 07:24:55 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . i have heard of the idea recently: aftercare for Dominants
is this a thing? Has anyone experienced it?
Mon 07:25:43 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . being pet, fingers combing through my hair... on the ground at His feet or pulled up into His lap. *purr* mmm, cleaning Him - fingers or cock worship to display my gratitude and adoration. eye contact. being told i was such
a good girl for Him.
Sometimes pinned underfoot as i come down from the stars or back up from intense degradation. Cleaning up the space after, or fetching Him a drink.. or just getting to gaze up at Him and lean on a thigh. *happy sigh*
But
most of it also happens after - when i write Him all my thoughts and feelings and He responds.
Mon 07:26:10 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . That... exists, pup, personally and to my knowledge of others. But I've never heard anyone 'officially' label it anything.
For me, it's actually all wrapped up together.
Mon 07:26:11 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . Not me, pup, though that is certainly interesting
Mon 07:27:43 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Often, care of the bottom IS care for the dominant. ~s~
Mon 07:27:59 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . ive heard that aftercare also helps from TopDrop
Mon 07:28:53 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . the thing that was really interesting about the rt situation i shared above....i was fine for the rest of the day after the scene and for the next day too...but then two days after the scene...i dropped...i reached out to my rt
Partner...and let Him know i was having a "rough day"...my message was not clear and was consequently brushed off by Him as His daily work is very demanding...and i did not have the energy to push back and express that i needed His attention...but
i did need to talk it out...so i reached out to one of my kinky friends and talked to her...later i circled back to the topic with my rt Partner and Wwe talked about what kind of plans and words Wwe can use in the future to make sure He understands
me when i say i am having a "rough day" that i understand that instead of saying "rough day" i need to use the phrase "aftercare" and He will totally be available to talk with me and provide the attention as i may or may not require. His idea is that
if He is willing to play with me...He must also be willing to clean up after play.
Mon 07:29:10 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . I would imagine that aftercare, from or to either/both helps with drop in general, just by its very nature..
Mon 07:29:17 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Seating Myself quietly*
Mon 07:32:29 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *listening*
i have also heard of TopDrop and that aftercare helps both the Dom and the sub land.
i make a habit of asking my Partners what i can do to help Them after play. some suggestions i have read on DomCare
are:
reassuring Them They provided you a good experience that Their effort is recognized and appreciated.
and chrissa...i have specifically heard that offering a Partner oral pleasure is way to make Them feel good and express gratitude...and
it helps the sub ground too. *lil grin*
Mon 07:33:39 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Okay so, here's a scenario.
A very rough, hard, intense session - a lot of pain, a lot of... well, usage. We're both practically husks by the end and stop mostly from exhaustion or... just plain being spent. We just flop
down or over and catch our breaths, maybe one or both actually dozes off.
We wake up, or rouse a few or a lot of minutes later... and we're fine.
Was that 'aftercare'?
Mon 07:35:08 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . and chriisa the journaling thing! i love that! i haven't done that so much. i do sometimes write out my memory of the scene...make a story of it...and then send it to my Partner...to give Him an idea of how the scene felt and
affected me.
and that is an aftercare tool that can be very useful in vt!
Mon 07:35:40 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~smiles at Gwyneth~
Mon 07:35:59 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . Hmmm...good question, Ms.Alexandra. To Me, that would just be an example of B/both P/partners being completely satiated to the point of exhaustion.
Mon 07:36:53 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Smiles at Ms. Alexandra* Now, let's take that a bit further...let's say O/one or the O/other, after 'coming to', wants to discuss the scene. Would that also warrant the term of aftercare?
Mon 07:37:21 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . Alexamdra...i think aftercare is defined by the Ppeople in it. there is no right or wrong way to do do aftercare other than to make sure all the Ppeople involved in it have had Ttheir needs attended to.
and i think, falling
asleep together after an intense scene is a HUGE sign of trust and connectedness...i don't sleep around Ppeople i don't like or trust or feel connected to.
Mon 07:37:49 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *listening to Lady Gwyneth Rose*
Mon 07:37:51 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *listens to rebecca* ive had VT sessions where i don’t drop until a couple days later and feel so confused and out of it. i love the idea of communicating so it isn’t simply a “rough day” but that it’s particularly linked to
that.
sorry if im slow, on my phone and cooking... *heh*
and yes, i have an oral fixation... it’s one of my favorite things. *dreamy purr* and displaying my gratitude is just huge, i think!
Mon 07:38:52 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~nods to Ms Rose~ Yes, and of course, there are bruises and perhaps cuts to attend, but to me... that's just part of it. I only have the labels, so to speak, in vt, to be honest. I know many dungeons and clubs have to call it
something, to make sure it happens because safety is the priority, but I've always been private. So categorizing everything hasn't been as important to me.
Mon 07:39:06 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . Alexandra, I do not think that that is aftercare in the typical sense, but more than that, and applies to all, that they may not desire aftercare.. I would think that it would be situational
Mon 07:39:17 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . Alexandra, that seems like a great time for me. *laughing warmly* but seriously, being spent and finding sleep together can be super refreshing and like rebecca said, a big sign of trust too.
Mon 07:41:01 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~nods~ I guess then, rebecca, that I, and perhaps some others, may be viewing it from a more personal perspective, as I described in the last post... As I only play to an extent requiring care, with those I trust and am very
familiar with.
I don't play at dungeons, or any public place, except in vt.
Mon 07:41:50 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Nodding thoughtfully* I agree with Zilla, though...it depends on the P/partners involved and what T/they agree might constitute aftercare and some need more than others.
Mon 07:42:38 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Well, Zilla, that's the case for me more often than not. 'Aftercare', as a specific thing, is a rare occurrence for me, in my private dealings. ~g~
Mon 07:43:21 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . i like to have sex rt after a scene...no better way to come down then an orgasm. *little grin...cheeks pinking* course that is with my primary Partner...with my play partners...i am nonsexual in play....and in vt real physical
sex is not a possibility so i have asked to do the talking thing...
like being a given a place to talk about what worked...what didnt work.
and yah. i need the aftercare.
what i don't need to be treated like i am a delicate flower
though...that annoys me...but again...there is no wrong way to do or receive aftercare...a stuffy...to be wrapped in a blankie...to be told i'm a good baby...doesn't appeal to me...but it might to many...and that's great...the important thing in aftercare
i think is to feel assured and safe and grounded...whatever that looks like.
also having any physical wounds cleaned and dressed and any messes cleaned up...for hygiene and safety measures.
Mon 07:44:10 PM EDT Mar 15
timid . . . Lady Gwyneth Rose? *blinks*
Mon 07:44:39 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Of course, yes, everyone has their own thing. I have mine, which is ... evidently, a bit more... loosey goosey. ~l~
Mon 07:45:21 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . Do you think your aftercare needs change based on your Partner is scene-specific? Or is it all pretty much the same?
Mon 07:45:42 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . chrissa, a quick red, please?
Mon 07:45:45 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *adds to “or” up there between partner and scene specific*
Mon 07:45:53 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . of course, Alexandra!
Mon 07:46:01 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . and loosey goosey works...as You know, Alexandra...based on Your play and the type of people You have engaged in play with. *soft nod*
Mon 07:46:35 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . I think it would have to be scene specific... as care would change or be different for a variety of reasons.. as would emotional response..
Mon 07:47:41 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . Yes, timid, it is Me..*chuckling*
Mon 07:48:13 PM EDT Mar 15
timid . . . It’s been so long Lady. *smiles with a blush*
Mon 07:48:28 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . ~soft laugh~
Mon 07:48:42 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *nodding to Zilla* yeah, that’s what i feel as well.. what the moment might call for. that would be hard to communicate though.
Mon 07:48:46 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . I know some of My submissives needed the full aftercare, from talking them down to wrapping them up warmly, making sure they were hydrated, etc. and so forth. However,some of them just wanted to go and look at their 'badges'
and that...for THEM...was all they needed.
Mon 07:48:49 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . so Zilla...You don't have a ritual for aftercare...You follow the flow of the scene? and have You experienced a TopDrop...if so...what do You do to feel btter?
same to You Lady Gwyneth Rose...do You need anything from Your
partners after a scene to feel grounded?
Mon 07:49:15 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Grins* Yes, timid it has..glad to be back Home again.
Mon 07:49:46 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . and to the subs in the room...do you do self-care as a form of aftercare?
Mon 07:50:45 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Everything is situational with me, Zilla. I need to trademark "It depends". ~l~
Mon 07:50:49 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . For Me, rebecca, what I need is to take a breath or two, recenter Myself. AFTER I take care of My sub, THEN I might have him/her give Me a foot rub, shoulder rub, etc.. but I need to take that breath first..to come to
ground again.
Mon 07:51:59 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Grins to Ms. Alexandra.* And communication, of course.
Mon 07:52:44 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *listening to Lady Rope*. so You do a form of self-care first. nice. it's so interesting to hear how People on the "D" side of the slash take care of Themselves...i feel like it doesn't get talked about enough.
Mon 07:52:55 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . I tend to follow the flow of a scene.. if my partner wishes to discuss any part after, I am all for it.. And yes. I have experienced TopDrop.. in order to work past that, I played the scene over again in my head.. sort of watching
as an observer, shifting my view from where I was at the time to another point of focus. I might engage my partner at or after that point if I feel discussion is warranted..
Mon 07:53:35 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . I guess... in hindsight, I've mostly been in relationships with submissives who are... well, not very dependent on the structure and ritualism of Aftercare. ~s~
So that says a lot about me. ~chuckle~
Mon 07:53:53 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Grins at rebecca* I rather fancy Lady Rope..but seriously, yes, I do need to 'step back' for one moment and take a breath..that grounding needs to occur for Me.
Mon 07:54:05 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . Rebecca I love that question!! One moment...
Mon 07:54:53 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . i have found that doing a little self care for myself in addition to the care my Partner gives is just a super important. taking a hot bath, eating nutritious food, hydrating, sleeping well....those are my responsibilities to
attend to after a scene so i maintain a healthy body and a healthy mind...so i can play again another day. *twinkly grin*
Mon 07:55:45 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . apologies on my typos this evening, Lady Rose and Aall....my keyboard is in need of some attention. *lil flush*
Mon 07:56:26 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~chuckles at Ms Rose~
Mon 07:57:17 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . so im only in VT, which means once online time ends, im all on my own. Usually once ive mentally emerged enough to do something other than curl up in a ball of my own slime and juices... *ahem* ill take a shower or bath... and
clean myself up... and go make a cup of tea or eat some yummy soup or something healthy. Maybe a piece of dark chocolate just because. *grin* and snuggle under my gravity blanket because it kinda feels like a big hug... and then ill journal all my
gratitude and thoughts to Him after.
Mon 07:58:43 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Grins at rebecca* I couldn't resist, sorry, lovely..I agree chrissa, sometimes in VT W/we have to do what W/we have to do to 'come down' to earth again.
Mon 07:59:21 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *smiles to LadyGwynethRose*
Mon 07:59:48 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . I really love watching someone who belongs to me, caring for themselves, even if it's just watching them comb their hair or shave or put on makeup.
Mon 08:00:57 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . personal hygiene is just so sexy.... *shivers*
Mon 08:01:44 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . another thing i discovered in looking through the materials for this conversation tonight, is the idea of having a friend to reach out to outside of the scene...like i did the other day when post scene i dropped and my Partner
was unaware i needed support. that friend that i sought out was a person kinky and aware and available to lend an ear or a hand if need be. not that they are a substitute for the Partner in the scene...but rather as...a friendly support.
i
think coming in here and talking to each other can be like that. sharing with our close subby friends some of the things experienced as a way to rehash and process. or even just having a safe place to simply BE in and not have to be all vanilla "on".
do
any of you use the the Castle Dungeon space for that? if so, how?
Mon 08:03:17 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . ooooh yes, chrissa! i have a weighted blanket too...it has a soft textured duvet...after a scene...i bathe put on my favorite night shirt and go snuggle under my weighted blanket.....and sleep soooooooo well. *happy sigh*
Mon 08:03:21 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . It iiisssss. ~gracefully melts~
Mon 08:03:30 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *smiles* i definitely process things with friends, and sometimes in the Castle public space too... it’s helpful to get perspectives, plus im a “verbal” processor - which includes writing too! So just by talking about it, I can
come to my own conclusions.
Mon 08:04:14 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *hearing Alexandra*
caring for themselves after a scene...or just in general?
Mon 08:04:35 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~nods hearing rebecca~ Frankly, I don't think anyone should be in D/s or BDSM without some kind of support net.
Mon 08:04:41 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Nodding thoughtfully again* I think the Dungeon is used for conversations of that kind, rebecca..I think the submissives and frankly the Dominants need to talk to process Scenes.
Mon 08:04:46 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *soft smile watching Her melt*
Mon 08:04:49 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Any time, rebecca. ~s~
Mon 08:05:29 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . and so is that a function of the Dungeon here in the Castle then? to find a support network and a place to process?
Mon 08:05:38 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *laughing as Alexandra melts* i always say that effort is sexy... putting time in to take care of one’s self is so hot to me. And i also enjoy it too, especially if im preparing to do something like a video or photo shoot...
it all becomes a ritual from showering to shaving to lotioning...to makeup and hair and what i choose to wear (or not wear)... and it is arousing sometimes too, putting yourself together for Someone’s pleasure. *squirm*
Mon 08:06:02 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . sorry, getting off topic now *focus focus focus*
Mon 08:06:47 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . One of them, rebecca, yes. The Mistress wanted to create a safe virtual space for support and learning. One can never have too much of either in this lifestyle.
Mon 08:06:49 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . Mmmm...sometimes, rebecca..but I have done Scenes in the Dungeon too and have seen Scenes done in the Dungeon.
Mon 08:07:17 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . I’ve always thought of the Dungeon as a place for learning and growing... and some sexy fun, too. *wiggle* but i kinda fell in out of nowhere and it was huge in my learning... all the topics and questions i was wrestling with...
so yeah, i see it as being that.
Mon 08:07:31 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . there was a period of time that i served as an aftercare specialist in the Dungeon
Mon 08:09:11 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . chrissa...i don't agree that you are off topic. not at all. self-care prior to scene sets us up for being well prepared for the scene....and well prepared after a scene to continue in the routine habits of taking care of ourselves
as aftercare...if we don't regularly practice self-care how can we be expected to know what and how to take care of ourselves when we are most needing the self-care? we build the habit as routine...it becomes second nature...it is there as aftercare
when we need it most.
Mon 08:09:29 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Definitely to all of that, chrissa. ~g~ From me side of things, specifically, there is a sense of... possession... ownership, watching "mine" being cared for... because of course, they're doing it for me. ~w~
I have often
made rituals of baths, mealtimes, massages, even bedtime prep. ~nods~
Mon 08:09:54 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Oops... pardon me, rebecca. Off topic. ~saves it for the D~
Mon 08:09:56 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . I know I need to communicate more.. rather.. talk about those things which keep coming back to haunt me, or draw my attention adversely.. those aspects of a scene that stick with me.
Mon 08:10:28 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . bex, you’re so good at connecting things and making it relevant. *big warm smile* thank you.
Alexandra, now i’m going to melt about all those rituals... *just puddles*
Mon 08:10:52 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . oh pup! i remember that! you were there as a support system for anyone that needed care after a scene. that was amazing back when you did that!
Mon 08:11:06 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yes, scenes of course are definitely to be a large part of the Dungeon. Of the Castle, in general.
That is why she created spaces like Inner Sanctum, the Courtyard, the Tower, etc.
Mon 08:11:57 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . Zilla, ive noticed You being more willing to ask questions or wrestle through thoughts in public... like the pet play stuff recently. I really appreciate that being something a community can help with... god knows im normally
a hot mess asking everyone for help. *laughing* but yeah, it’s something ive noticed! Or how submissives feel about things.
Mon 08:12:10 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~grins at chrissa~ I'll remember that.
Mon 08:12:14 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . oooo like a castle slave but for aftercare?
Mon 08:12:17 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . *smiles and nods* i enjoyed it and there seemed to be those who benefitted from it, i had seen a but of subdrop going on for a while that was not healthy to leave alone
Mon 08:12:31 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . exactly so, chrissa
Mon 08:13:40 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . in VT, i honestly don’t care much about being “bandaged” up or whatever for wounds since it’s not physical... but the mental and emotional aspects are very important to me. And im a sucker for displaying affection however im
allowed. *nods lots*
Mon 08:14:05 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *eyes to Alexandra*
could it be a form of aftercare for You then, Alexandra...if one wanted to give You aftercare...for them to groom and self-care in front of You...would that ground and soothe You after a scene...cuz
i would assume that if one is well enough to groom and self-care...they are showing You they are in a good space? i see possibilities there. a potentially mutually satisfying aftercare exchange.*twinkle eyes*
Mon 08:14:11 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yes, I thought that was a great idea, and I think, pup, it was being considered as an official title, wasn't it? Maybe we could try that again, if you're still willing. ~s~
Mon 08:14:15 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . That's a good idea, pup..maybe We need that for the Dominants as well..Someone to Whom They could come and talk about Scenes or even what They might do differently.
Mon 08:15:01 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . that’s really cool, pup. how did you feel about that role?
Mon 08:15:53 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . it was indeed official, heather had authorized it at the time i believe... and i would be honored to take up such again with the way things are picking back up, if there is a need for such and of coure of my One approves, though
i think She would
Mon 08:16:08 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . I suppose it all plays in, rebecca. ~thinks about it~
I mean, I enjoy these grooming/self-care rituals at any time, not just after scenes, wait actually... not often after scenes. This is just a general pleasure of mine.
~s~
But it does play into the relationship as a whole, and all of its components. ~nods~
Mon 08:16:22 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . i agree with you, chrissa...in vt...the technical stuff that is aftercare in rt is far less important to me than the emotional and mental processing of the scene.
and pup...how did you become the aftercare pup? was it something
you enjoyed?
Mon 08:17:02 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *grinning as the idea of aftercare specialists comes up*
Mon 08:17:30 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . i liked it... i like helping people, and i have a gift... i believe for helping others through difficult headspaces
Mon 08:18:05 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Cool. ~smiles at the pup~ I will bring it up with the Mistress. But I will wait until you let me know your Ma'am approves.
Thanks, pup.
Mon 08:18:07 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . and Lady Rose...and aftercare Person for Dominants...that would be interesting to see...would Anyone offer to do that? Would Dominants be interested in it?
Mon 08:18:24 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . you are definitely talented and willing to help anyone, pup. *warm hug*
Mon 08:19:31 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . thank You, Alexandra
i think a dedicated One for Doms would be a great idea too, sometimes we need someone on the same level to process things...
*blushes and hugs chrissa*
Mon 08:19:46 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . I think an aftercare assistant... IS aftercare for dominants. ~g~
Mon 08:19:57 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *eyes to Zilla*
so You are aware and navigating the aspects of aftercare for those You engage in play with...as well as for Yourself, Zilla? do You have any questions about aftercare?
Mon 08:20:24 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *soft laugh hearing Alexandra*
true.
Mon 08:20:47 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . i can see that *giggles*
Mon 08:21:36 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . i always think Dominants are so... hm... they keep to themselves and don’t process with others. I wonder if thats just the nature of the personality or if it’s pride or if it’s simply my perspective of what I see in public?
Mon 08:22:08 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . That's what you think, chrissa. ~g~
Mon 08:22:23 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *laughing* knew it!
Mon 08:22:23 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Right... just read the end of your post. ~l~
Mon 08:23:02 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *lil grin*
do you discuss your aftercare needs with your Partner prior to a scene?
Mon 08:23:11 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~looks over to Gwyneth (if she's still here)~ We women, especially... we've been fierce competitors, but also, amazing supports to each other.
Mon 08:23:15 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . So.. I am aware of navigating aftercare towards my partner.. but.. I have rarely turned that same level of attention to myself.. or asked for that similar attention.. partly, stubborn/stoic.. but also it has never occurred to me
that that should go in both directions..
Mon 08:23:37 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . women supporting women... just makes me so happy!
Mon 08:23:55 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Crimson was a great support for me, especially during my early days as a dominant here, chrissa. ~s~
Mon 08:23:58 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . I Myself process with Other Dominants sometimes, chrissa..not often, true...but sometimes. Usually it is after a particularly intense scene where I may have to have a wine/coffee/tea/whatever and talk about how I perceived
what I did.
Mon 08:24:13 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . i do not, bex. perhaps i should, but i don’t.
Mon 08:24:23 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . I'm here, Ms. Alexandra...I'm here...honestly..*grins*
Mon 08:24:59 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . Aw, I love hearing that, Alexandra. Crimson was so wonderful. *sighs happily, thinking of Him* He had a lot of opinions, too. *grin*
Mon 08:25:31 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Gwyneth, I was thinking of our past with Scarlet, McKenna, you, Emmy.... ~s~
Mon 08:26:04 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . That’s interesting, LadyGwynethRose... is it more to process how You could do better? Or after an emotional response to it?
Mon 08:26:31 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yep, he did. ~l~
Mon 08:26:41 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . absolutely Zilla! When You are leading a scene You are pouring out a huge amount of attention and energy. it makes sense that You would need a minute to ground and process. i have heard Doms talk of how They fly Their partner...and
in doing so...fly Themselves...take the journey with the sub...if the sub has to land so does the Dom...what goes up must come down and all that. now how much or what any Iindividual needs is determined by the Iindividual...and not for Aanyone else
to judge or decide.
Mon 08:28:25 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . In large part, it's the flight of the submissive that triggers the flight of the dominant. In my experience.
I have to be in a partiuclarly, mean, cruel, selfish frame of mind for it to be otherwise. But it happens!
Mon 08:28:32 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . Both actually, chrissa. Sometimes I need that 'okay, I'm here, tell Me all about it".just to communication..I miss Them, Ms. Alexandra, I do miss Them..They were fun and helpful.
Mon 08:28:46 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . so maybe in addition to re-establishing an aftercare specialist in pup...maybe re-establishing an informal Dominant support group is in order too? so Those on the "D" side of the slash are getting Their aftercare needs met too...in
a way that resonates.
Mon 08:29:34 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *smiles, listening*
Mon 08:29:42 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . But no... how long I fly isn't necessarily connected to the submissive's. I think that is more dependent on how your brain is actually wired.
Mon 08:30:05 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . kind of like Castle resident councilors
Mon 08:31:07 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Very much so. ~nods to Ms Rose~ Sometimes it's caring and supportive, sometimes problem-solving, and sometimes... just a good ole bitch session. ~l~
Mon 08:31:08 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *hearing Alexandra*
that an interesting point. flight is linked to brain chemicals. i hadn't thought of that possibility. that makes sense. and again leads back to this whole idea that how long or how much aftercare is
needed varies depending on the Ppeople involved.
Mon 08:32:28 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . What would that look like, rebecca? A dominant aftercare specialist? What kinds of things would they do?
Mon 08:32:39 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Grins to Ms. Alexandra* Exactly..a heart to heart chat with Someone Who actually does understand.
Mon 08:33:11 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . am i wrong in thinking that is in part the duties of a Dungeon Master?
Mon 08:33:42 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Absolutely. ~grins and nods to rebecca~
Mon 08:34:40 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yes, Gwyneth! To have at least one confidante who 'gets it' is important.
Mon 08:35:04 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . What, pup? Dominant aftercare?
Mon 08:35:26 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . *listening*
Mon 08:35:52 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . i am not one to say what an aftercare specialist would look like...but in listening to this conversation between You and Lady Rose...and Zilla's comments...it seems that there is a desire for Dominants to have a place to process
with Each Other Their D/s experiences? so maybe a TimeOut space for Dominants? a once a week organized chat? no required participation...just a place to come and talk if You like?
Mon 08:35:59 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . as in so far as making sure the mental health of those in Their domains are doing well mentally
Mon 08:36:52 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . We used to have something like that, rebecca..one for the submissives and one for the Dominants. It would be nice to have those again.
Mon 08:37:07 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . sorry for speaking redundantly there *wrinkles nose*
Mon 08:37:17 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Well, that seems like a good idea on paper. ~thinks~ But in the end, a "specialist" isn't what is needed. It's a trusted friend... someone you know well, is familiar with you and your... style, understand ~you~... a general
specialist can't be that.
Mon 08:37:59 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Oh, do you mean the rooms, GwynethRose? The one for dominants and one for submissives? I think there was one for Switches too?
Mon 08:38:15 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . i mean the TimeOut here on Mondays is designed as a safe space for subs to come and informally learn, support, discuss, process...build the network for aftercare needs outside and in addition to their Partner...so whynot have
the same option for Dominants to process and build networks of care?
Mon 08:39:10 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . I am in agreement with Alexandra on that.. in that having a trusted friend, who may or may not be a part of this place, but that is familiar with BDSM, is potentially more helpful..
Mon 08:39:23 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . Yes, there was Ms. Alexandra..do You remember? I do and as I recall I helped out and so did You.
Mon 08:39:32 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Hmmm... yes and no, I think, pup.
The DM is certainly available (as part of the job) if anyone, dominant or submissive, needs to talk... needs... whatever. But it needs to be requested.
It's not a thing that the
DM will insert himself into unless there is obvious abuse or breaking of rules.
Mon 08:40:06 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . I like the idea of mentorship... that’s kinda what it sounds like?
Mon 08:40:19 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *soft smile*
we have kind of wandered off topic...allow me to corral us back in.
so...how do you ex=stablish aftercare?
i talk to my Partner before play and state my aftercare needs up as part of the negotiation.
chrissa
you said you do not discuss aftercare needs....so how does Your Master determine what you need in aftercare?
and pup...what do you do to establish aftercare needs?
Mon 08:41:07 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yes, I do remember those, Gwyneth. Rather than a specific person, there was a designated room that you could go in and chat, and there were meetings once a months, I think.
Mon 08:41:17 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *establish (fixing the typo)
Mon 08:42:30 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . We do have a room for Dominants.. and a room for submissives.. but i think they are citizen only rooms...
Mon 08:42:45 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yes, those rooms were a bit like Timeout is, rebecca. ~nods~ Designated for each... 'orientation'.
Mon 08:43:05 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . I didn't even know they were still active, lady tiffany.
Mon 08:43:23 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Nodding thoughtfully* I believe those might help with aftercare..the rooms..to sort out and process feelings and emotions.
Mon 08:43:34 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . i don't remember weekly or monthly schedule chats... i seem to recall they actually were created... and never really seemed to catch on and get used...
Mon 08:44:45 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yes, I'm liking the idea a bit more as I think about it. ~nods~ We could re-establish those rooms again. They'd be just a place for people to go in, post whatever they wish to share or hash out...
Could work. ~nods~
Mon 08:45:13 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . bex, it’s definitely less formal in terms of negotiating. As a slave, you get what is given. *smiles* but Master usually knows my headspace and im very expressive and descriptive in my longings and my thoughts when i post, so
it’s never really a surprise... but i don’t need any big specific routine for aftercare. i need to know im pleasing, which could be a smile alone... or words... or His foot stroking my hip... or being told to clean Him or myself up... or yeah, i get
to do whatever He wishes in the moment.
With casual scenes with Others, i normally don’t need any form of aftercare. Especially if it’s playful or more physical... if Ones don’t know how to get into my mind and twist me up or make me vulnerable,
i can happily thank Them and go to my next thing.
Mon 08:45:30 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yes, I went to a couple of meetings, lady tiffany. I can't remember how many exactly. But I don't recall using the rooms in between the meetings.
Mon 08:45:46 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . They get "assigned" to your handle by emailing admin... if i recall correctly you could not belong to both... only to one or the other... seemed to cause some issues for switches...
Mon 08:46:26 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *listening to the talk of rooms being put to use as spaces to process, grow, learn, support Eeach Oother...all important aspects of Ccommunity, Lifestyle, and the finer details of things like aftercare*
Mon 08:46:35 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . I think so too...they (the rooms) would help with the aftercare for B/both..say S/someone wasn't around to help a O/one process feelings, emotions, the spirituality of the scene.
Mon 08:46:41 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *would totally sneak into the D room and try to soak up all Their perspectives*
Mon 08:47:14 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yes... ~nods to lady tiffany~ Just like being assigned a private room.
There has to be a code of honour not to share the passwords around.
Mon 08:47:37 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *hmph*
Mon 08:47:39 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Nodding to Ms. Alexandra and lady tiffany*
Mon 08:47:49 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . well, i havent had all that many play Partners to be perfectly honest... i did suffer drop once though... as i recall a day after a session, and the One who scened with me i did reah out to and They came to spend some time with
as soon as They could... it helped.
the nature of my dynamics generally has a lot of built in affection and attentive care, what with being a pet and all, so i think i just kind of generally have aftercare integrated into my lifestyle.
a
few of those i started to engage with purposefully asked and planned for such before we ever even got so far as play, to prepare and know if they could meet my needs. And the One i am with now... very thoroughly discusses so many aspects and that
has definately been part of things covered in depth in our discusion
Mon 08:47:55 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . and is part of being a slave...and having your Master determine what your aftercare needs are...is that also understanding that what He gives is exactly enough? *tilting my head...genuinely trying to understand*
Mon 08:48:13 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . submissive room is still attached to my handle... you get in off the Dungeon..... but only if you are a citizen... and have asked admin to assign one or the other to your handle.
Mon 08:48:34 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yes, exactly, Gwyneth. ~nods~ Sometimes you just need to... vent. ~g~
Mon 08:50:04 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *nods to rebecca’s question* yes, but like i said... i get to express myself to Him afterward. and if im really craving something specific, i may ask or beg for it. He has never told me “no” only “not now” on those things...
but mostly yes. And He knows when it’s really serious and something to be addressed as immediately as possible.
Master still wants to take care of His property, but it’s on His terms. *happy little sigh*
Mon 08:50:19 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~chuckles at chrissa's hmph~
Mon 08:51:00 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . If the dominant or switch rooms are still attached to my handle, I don't know because I can't remember the passwords ~l~
Mon 08:51:07 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . *smiles hearing the pupper*
Mon 08:51:41 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *listening to the pup*
built in aftercare as part of the dynamic...daily affection. i like that.
*soft smile*
yah. you are such a kind soul....i'm very glad that the One you are with now understands the beauty
and depth and sensitivity of who you are and the responsibility that incurs.
as i said before...as i learned from my current Partner...if One can play with you...They must also be willing to be available to give aftercare to the extent and
duration you require.
Mon 08:52:08 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . There was no switch room... just Dominant... or submissive... did you have a different primary room back then Alexandra?
Mon 08:52:21 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . sorry... different primary NAME
Mon 08:52:47 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . It's great that you have noticeably built upon your experience in getting to know what works and doesn't for you, pup. ~smiles~ It's good to see such positive growth.
Mon 08:52:54 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . Yes...the Owner must take care of the property! *beam at chrissa*
whatever that looks like to the Ttwo involved!
Mon 08:52:56 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . No password... it's just on the drop down list and you go right in when you select it.
Mon 08:53:08 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . Venting is absolutely necessary at times..
Mon 08:53:35 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . I went to at least one switch meeting, lady tiffany. I think Ronin headed them up.
I'm not switch, though. Just that I'd submitted before.
Mon 08:54:25 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . thank You, Alexandra. As One who i know has seen a large part of my journey here, that means a lot.
Mon 08:54:30 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . No, I was Alexandra. Solstice was strictly for the Crypt rooms, but it's my main ~monitor~ handle.
Mon 08:54:41 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . Alexandra and lady tiffany...i love this talk of the rooms being revived! do Eeither or Bboth of Yyou see how this could be an asset to not just Ccommunity building...but as a contribution to aftercare? Do Yyou think such a room
is needed...or is aftercare something that should be kept to the Ttwo (or more) in the dynamic?
Mon 08:54:46 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . Hmmm... maybe they made a room for it then?... i don't remember that...
Mon 08:55:38 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~gracious dip of head to the pup~
Mon 08:56:13 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . i don't think i would use it that way rebecca...i might use it to just chat with fellow submissives though... i am interested in trying to make connections with my fellow submissives.. to get to know them
better... create a support for each other...
Mon 08:56:23 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Ohh... no passwords? Okay, my memory is definitely not what it used to be.
Mon 08:56:50 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . Mmm...maybe keep aftercare between T/two, rebecca, but there is a need, I think, for the Rooms to be used again. There's nothing wrong with getting another viewpoint..or to just vent loudly.
Mon 08:56:56 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . so do you think then that aftercare is best shared solely between Tthose in the dynamic?
Mon 08:57:31 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . I think people could use those rooms as a space to share their experience, ask for or offer support to their peers... so yes, definitely plays into aftercare.
Mon 08:58:23 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . so Ccommunity spaces, Lady Rose, to find and have additional support...but the more intimate aspects of aftercare kept to the dynamic between Ttwo. am i understanding You correctly?
Mon 08:58:34 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . For me... yes rebecca... i've not been in a place for a very long time where i felt i could let go with another submissive for support. i lean on Dark Traveler for that...
Mon 08:59:46 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Well, to Ms Rose's point, a large part of aftercare IS between the ones involved, but as we were saying before about just talking to trusted friends, getting advice or problem-solving, etc... it certainly can help with aftercare.
Say someone is experiencing drop several days after an intense scene... and their dominant is not around... they could go there... talk about how they're feeling... etc. That is aftercare.
Mon 09:00:39 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . After a scene, the aftercare should be between Tthose involved, rebecca...but again, sometimes it helps to talk to Oothers Wwho get it. For example, I wouldn't step in after a scene between Ttwo and say hey, I'm a Dominant
and I will by Goddess help with the aftercare. I would be tossed out on My generous ass and I would deserve it. Having said that, I believe that the Rooms would serve to continue the process.
Mon 09:00:48 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . I think that aftercare should be between the Ttwo in the dynamic, but.. that venting or gathering of other perspective should also be a viable recourse..
Mon 09:01:35 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *soft nod hearing Alexandra*
i'm excited about the possibility of the rooms being revived....a place for Ppeople to find support and make connections.
and thank You Aall for tonight's convo on aftercare. i think
the big takeaways are that Yyou get Yyour aftercare needs met in the way and with the Ppeople that best serves you and Yyour dynamic. *beam* if YYou have any questions or would like some links to resources on aftercare just reach out to me, please!
*sitting
back to listen a bit*
Mon 09:01:46 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . ive had other submissives care for me after under the direction of One... or im used as a little assistant to help.
Mon 09:02:27 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . thanks again for preparing and hosting, rebecca! these topics are such a highlight for my mondays now!
Mon 09:03:16 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Thank you, rebecca. You've done an excellent job, as usual. ~s~
Mon 09:03:22 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . yes thank you again rebecca, you do a wonderful job with this
Mon 09:03:26 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . Thank you, rebecca..I have always enjoyed TimeOut and you make it informative and interesting. *warm smiles*
Mon 09:04:21 PM EDT Mar 15
Zilla . . . Thank you tiger, excellent work
Mon 09:04:52 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~grins at Ms Rose~ Yes but, that would be you inserting yourself. If you were ~asked~... now, would you refuse to offer support?
So people going to the rooms would be doing so by choice, which would mean they want to
share. ~g~
Mon 09:05:44 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . No, if I were asked, I would help, Ms. Alexandra..otherwise, like I said, I would be tossed out on My bountiful butt and I would deserve to be..*eyes twinkling*
Mon 09:06:09 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . a little assistant, chrissa? like an assistant that is a little?
Mon 09:06:31 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *lil grin hearing Lady Rose*
Mon 09:06:43 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Yep. ~l~
Hmmm...~thoughtful~ I think I'd at least slap it, first, Ms Rose. Always need one for the road. ~w~
Mon 09:06:45 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . whom me? what? *giggles*
Mon 09:07:15 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . ohhh... no, not that. *laughing* just an assistant slut to help in His enjoyment of others sometimes, bex. im not any kind of “little” in that sense.
Mon 09:07:42 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *BURSTING into laughter with Ms. Alexandra* With this ass I probably wouldn't feel a thing, Ms. Alexandra..
Mon 09:08:00 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Or and assistant that is... little. As in... tiny. ~l~
Mon 09:08:00 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . got it chrissa. *grin*
Mon 09:08:25 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . Hmmm...little...reminds Me of little dickie..
Mon 09:08:29 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . yeah, that kind! a cute one!
Mon 09:08:29 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . I've never slapped it, Ms Rose. ~brow wiggle~
Mon 09:08:34 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *hearing Alexandra*
yahhhhhh chrissa is petite. *grin*
Mon 09:08:45 PM EDT Mar 15
Dark Traveler`s lady tiffany . . . ~s~ little dickie still comes around...
Mon 09:08:51 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . and cute.
Mon 09:08:54 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . Omg... he was around the other day, Ms Rose. ~l~
Mon 09:09:06 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . He was around just a bit ago!
Mon 09:09:28 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . I am heading out, though...again, thank you rebecca for a grand TimeOut. I look forward to next weeks' TimeOut..*Waving and smiling and gone*
Mon 09:10:00 PM EDT Mar 15
~chrissa~ . . . I’m going to head to the D and lurk a bit... thanks again for the awesome discussion
Mon 09:10:05 PM EDT Mar 15
LadyGwynethRose . . . *Halting just a moment* I may see him again soon, then..*grins and is gone*
Mon 09:10:08 PM EDT Mar 15
Alexandra . . . ~laughs~
Okay folks, I need to... do stuff.
Thank you again, rebecca, and everyone, thank you for attending!
Goodnight!
~exits~
Mon 09:10:13 PM EDT Mar 15
rebecca . . . *warm smile around...and exiting to the Dungeon*
Mon 09:11:07 PM EDT Mar 15
the pup . . . *scoots*
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